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Six Ways on How to Attract a Single Girl
Submitted by wadeinni
The burden of breaking the ice in first encounters between members of the opposite sex usually falls on the guy. Whether he's an inexperienced suiter or newbie in the dating pool, he has to face the dreaded possibility of rejection from an attractive single girl. There are six proven methods on how to attract a single girl though.
The nerves are on edge and he must decide whether to pull out his best line (not usually recommended), or freeze in fear and perspiration deciding what to do. The typical guy makes the mistake of over-thinking and trying to find an angle, that most often result in the girl either coldly walking away or politely suggesting she's in a relationship to avoid the "creep" factor.
Resistance as he'll notice at that point is not futile. Like a clever ad campaign designed to attract customers, most women know within the first 5 seconds whether or not they're attracted to the guy across the room. A large part of that attraction has everything to do with you the guy, and the vibe and confidence you project. She instantly notice your posture, your eye movements, and facial expressions. The level of the rest of the physical attraction will depend on the first handshake or verbal introduction, if you muster up the courage and confidence to get that far.
For the romantically challenged guy, here are 6 proven methods on how to attract a single girl:
1. Find something of visual appeal in her immediate surrounding.
Pretend ignorance, and politely make a comment or ask a need to know question about the object or item. This approach usually works best in market places for food, pets, plants, or home decorations. These are places single girls frequent.
Let your question be direct, precise and unrehearsed. A single girl prefers a guy who can initiate a good conversation about subjects that interest them. DO NOT start a question or conversation about sports or sports related items. She's not a guy, and will generally have no knowlegde of what you are talking about.
2. Make good eye contact and smile.
Remember she'll be more receptive and entertaining to you if you're focused on her face. She will notice if your conversation and eyes stray below her neck, or stay fixated on her cleavage.
3. Show 100% initiative and zero hesitation.
When you show reluctance to approach her, this is a sign that you might not possess alpha male qualities. Confidence is everything in approaching a girl. Anything less becomes a huge turnoff, reason for rejection or the beginning of the "Friend Zone" which can be more painful than the rejection itself. So simply man up and be aggressive.
4. Listen Listen Listen.
Guys are notoriously stereotyped for lacking the ability to listen to women in a conversation.. DO NOT talk about yourself too much, let her do the speaking, then you'll begin to learn details about some of her interests, people she know, or places she likes to hangout. Listening also gives her the impression that you think what she says is important, whether it is or not.
5. Watch your space.
Personal space is very important to most women. Guys will learn very quickly that becoming a "close talker" won't get them much further in the conversation. Remember you are just meeting her, not sizing her up for the first kiss. As she becomes comfortable speaking to you, take mental note, and notice that she will very slowly move closer to you to entertain an even longer conversation. Girls love to speak, but not pounced on.
6. Last but not least, Have Fresh breath!
Nothing says get away from me like a breath like day old sock or freshly eaten onions in your mouth. When in doubt about the freshness of your breath, don't approach a woman.
Remember these six steps and your chances of landing a single girl's phone number or first date will almost be a sure thing.
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1. Always being surrounded by a lot of girlfriends, even when in a place full of available single guys on the prowl. A guy is not going to approach a girl who is traveling or hanging with her friends. He knows that if he does he will be sized up and critiqued by each one of them the moment he walks away. And it makes for an awkward moment trying to flirt with the girl in front of her friends anyway. The buddy system is great, when your in a strange place, and especially in private parties, bars or club settings where there might be alcohol present. But otherwise give yourself some space from your friends to make single guys approach you.
2. Many girls over do it on the hotness scale. Being attractive and single is great but if you do want a guy to approach you, flirt, and ask you out, you sometimes have to not be so hot to the point where your beauty intimidates the guy. Guys are afraid of rejection, and the first thought they have when they see an extremely attractive woman is "oh she must be already taken", or I don't have a shot at a girl that attractive. You're not doing a photo shoot for the next issue of Cosmo or Vogue, be attractive but tone it down slightly for approachability sake.
3. Give a signal that you want the guy to come and talk to you only if you really do. You don't want just every guy coming over to have a shot at picking you up. Its a waste of your time, and you'll want to spare him the shame and embarrassment of turning him down.
4. Don't constantly have a guy friend next to you at every event or in public places if you want to meet other guys. Single guys misinterpret this as him possibly being your boyfriend. Men are simple in how they think when it comes to women. They see you, you're alone, you look approachable they'll come over and speak. If you have a man next to you they think automatically he's your boyfriend or guy of the moment. That'll keep them away 90 percent of the time, the other few might still approach you not caring who he is. But that's not the guys you want to attract, they're called players who could care less whether you're single or not.
Hope this helps the single guys a bit. See some women are on your side, if your a genuine guy that is.